Saturday, September 24, 2011

Day 3 and 4

We now have my son full time!  I recieved an email Friday morning saying to be at the IHNFA office at 10:00.  We had already arranged for the taxi to pick up my son and the foster mother at 9:00 so we arrived at IHNFA in good time.  I was taken into a room with two social workers and they talked to my son, the foster mother and then to me.  They told me that I could have Ricardo after another hour with the foster mother.  Then she would leave and he would stay with us from here on in.  The social workers are going to check in on Monday and then we will sign the papers for temporary custody on Tuesday. 

The foster mother didn't bring any of the clothes I had brought for my son on the first trip.  I think she wanted to keep them, so we had to go to the mall to get some clothes.  The clothes shopping took us hours.  The foster mother only wanted us to buy cheap clothes and every store we went in the clothes were too expensive.  We ended up driving through town and shopping in the downtown core before we found prices that she was happy with.  It was too hard to try and reason with her in Spanish so we just followed along.  We got to see lots and she took us to a stall with Honduran crafts as well.  I think she also wanted to spend more time with Ricardo.  We finally got to the hotel around 3:30 and she stayed another hour before leaving.  It was very sad as she has cared for him for so long. 

My son was happy at first.  The foster mother had told him for months that a new family would come and buy him lots of things.  He was very happy during the shopping.  After the foster mother left, we headed to the pool.  He had never been in a pool before and had no sense of how to be safe.  It took a fall off the stairs in the bigger kids pool in which his head went under water for him to realize that it could be dangerous.  He also did colouring and playing paper airplanes with Ali.  He ate a good dinner, watched some tv and then bed.  It was bed time when he realized that he wasn't going back home and the crying started but only for about 15 minutes.  I laid on the bed with him and he fell asleep. 

Saturday he woke up happy and we again headed to the mall as we were missing a few things like pajamas.  We bought more things for him, some colouring books and small toys and had lunch before heading back to the hotel for an afternoon in the pool.  He seemed happy most of the day but a little sad around dinner.  He perked up when we put the tv on and his favourite movie was on, Wall-E.  Before bed he showed me all the different kinds of dinosaurs in his colouring book and then I laid with him as he quietly went to sleep. 

I am very happy with the way things have gone the last two days.  Both kids are adjusting well.  Ali has had a few issues but has been very helpful.  Everything is going smoothly and I hope things will continue.  We have started working on English with my son and Ali keeps sitting him down and going over words in her notebook. 

Tomorrow we will hang around the hotel after two days of shopping. 

2 comments:

  1. Congratulation! One more step. Happy to hear your son is now with you and everthing is well. Wish you good continuation.

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  2. so glad that things seem to be going well for Ricardo and I hope for a speedy adoption decree signing!

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